What is Social Anxiety?
You may be wondering what I mean when I say I want to “conquer my anxiety.” What does he mean by anxiety? How does one conquer it? What does this have to do with finding a girlfriend?
That’s a whole lot of great questions, so I’ll answer them one at a time.
There are a whole lot of different anxiety disorders out there. As a matter of fact, I just wrote a new article about it: Coping with an Anxiety Disorder. You can find out more about the various types of disorders by reading the article. Read More…
February 21, 2010
Tags: Nice Guy, Relationships, Social Anxiety Posted in: Conquer Anxiety 
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Goal Revision: Find a Life Partner
I’ve done a lot of thinking (and I mean a LOT) about this “Find a Life Partner” goal of mine and I’ve come to the conclusion that it needs to be reworked.
Yes, I want to enter a relationship, but I don’t want it to be forced. I haven’t exactly been trying to force anything at this point, but something about striving to find a “life partner” seems a bit insincere. I don’t want my companion (provided I actually succeed) to feel as though I am only getting with her because of my goal. If that were the case, I could probably just go to some bar or club somewhere and ask out every girl I see until one says yes.
I don’t want to resort to that. I am a Nice Guy after all. Read More…
February 17, 2010
Tags: Anxiety, Dating, Goals, Relationships, Revision Posted in: Conquer Anxiety No Comments
Singles Awareness Day
Valentine’s Day, or as I often refer to it “Singles Awareness Day,” is fast approaching, and I only now realize what this means for my sanity. Allow me to explain:
The past few years on Singles Awareness Day (or SAD) have been pretty difficult on me emotionally for a number of reasons. Even though I sometimes had a good time on the day itself, it was usually that time in the year when I lost a lot of faith in myself. It has generally been the darkest periods of my year emotionally (save for one or two very extreme exceptions).
It occurred to me that Valentine’s day was a point when I gained a lot of hope for a future relationship which just never ended up happening at all. These realizations were especially crushing blows to my morale, and to this day are difficult to talk about.
But as a means of healing, and perhaps a way of moving on, I thought I’d relate some of the experiences I’ve had in the past. Read More…
February 11, 2010
Tags: Nice Guy, Relationships, Single, Singles Awareness Day, Valentines Day Posted in: Stories No Comments
Honorable Mention vol. I – Relationships
Hello and welcome! Street Saint proudly presents his very first Honorable Mention. The following articles were submitted to me from all over the internet. That’s a mighty long way to travel, so please do take a look at all of the submissions I received from last month.
January’s theme was relationships and relationship stories. After reviewing the submissions I received, the following articles struck me as the most relevant to the theme and the blog itself. Please enjoy! Read More…
February 1, 2010
Tags: Dating, Relationships Posted in: Honorable Mention 5 Comments
Relationships Blog Carnival
To celebrate the coming of the new year, here is the first Street Saint hosted Blog Carnival! The following articles were submitted to me over the past month by bloggers all over the internet. The theme of the carnival was relationships, both good and bad. Here are the relationship stories and advice I received from around the blog-o-sphere. Read More…
January 1, 2010
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Losing Faith
So I sent “Samira” a message asking her to meet up. I had an entire plan made up in my mind with exactly what I would say when she responded. I wanted to talk to her in person, but I rarely see her now. I was pretty confident that everything would work out. We might not end up together, but we’d at least see each other. However, that was all dependent on her responding back.
Unfortunately, it’s been over 24 hours and I’ve still heard nothing from her. Why does this happen? Whenever I feel I’ve figured everything out, everything finds a way to slip out of my grasp. All I needed was a response. Any response would have been just fine. Even if she said, “I hate you, leave me alone,” at least I’d know how she was feeling. Now all I can do is speculate. Read More…
December 18, 2009
Tags: Dating, Rejection, Relationships Posted in: Find a Life Partner No Comments
How to Lose A Guy in 10 Seconds
This one is mainly for the ladies, but guys can learn a whole lot from this as well. This post is a pretty long one, but there’s a lot of good stuff in it, so you may want to read the whole thing. In short, I overheard a great conversation on the subway today, and I thought I’d share what I gathered from it.
There was a couple sitting across from me and they were with a female friend. The woman (for our intents and purposes will be named Woman) was telling her friends (the Boyfriend and Girlfriend) about how she had just been asked out by a friend of hers. What hooked me into the conversation is when she said, “Really, he’s the nicest guy, but I just…” At that point, I didn’t even try to look like I wasn’t paying attention. Read More…
December 17, 2009
Tags: Communication, Dating, Men and Women, Relationships Posted in: Stories One Comment
Emotional Paralysis
One of the issues I struggle with is something I call socially onset emotional paralysis. At first I thought I was the only one with this problem, but I’ve found in talking to others, that this is more common than I originally thought. Emotional Paralysis occurs most often in introverted people and many people also link it to depression, but I believe anyone can have this “condition.”
There are many different ideas about emotional paralysis and how to define it; however, it is most commonly associated with the inability to form or express one’s emotions. It is associated with depression because depressed people often have trouble showing or feeling emotion. Socially Onset Emotional Paralysis (we can call it S.O.E.P) is similar to this, but refers to a more specific disposition. Read More…
December 12, 2009
Tags: Dating, Depression, Emotional Paralysis, Introversion, Relationships Posted in: General No Comments
Planning Something Big!
So, I was going to keep this secret, but I think it’s important that you all know what I have in the works since it can greatly effect my main goal. In short, if all goes well, I could perhaps put an early end to the “Find a Life Partner” goal. However, that’s only if everything goes according to plan.
I don’t want to give away exactly what I plan to do just yet, since it is a surprise, but I will let you in on the important parts. Right now, I’ve already asked “Samira” to be at a certain place at a certain time. I asked her to be there just as if I were asking any other friend, so at this point she is still in the dark, just as you all are. Essentially, I am going to make it clear to her, in as suave a fashion as I can, how I feel albeit in a rather “dramatic” way. Read More…
December 9, 2009
Tags: Goals, Plan, Relationships, Scheme Posted in: Find a Life Partner No Comments
Joyful Times!
Yesterday was a fantastic day and I’m feeling pretty good about myself. As I had mentioned when I went back to the dating game, I was going to try a new strategy on my crush, Samira (not her real name). I would get really close, and see how she would react.
Unfortunately, I didn’t necessarily do this. I had some opportunities, but circumstances made it difficult. In one instance, I purposefully chose to sit in a seat that would put me right beside her. However, I had gotten up for a moment and when I returned someone else had taken the seat. I didn’t want to make a fuss about it, since seating wasn’t assigned and I hadn’t clearly marked the seat as my own. Read More…
December 6, 2009
Tags: Flirting, Relationships Posted in: Find a Life Partner 2 Comments