Archive for the ‘Find a Life Partner’ Category
Back to the Dating Game
Since I’ve been busy with my random acts of kindness, I haven’t been able to give many updates about my main goal: to find a life partner. Although there haven’t been a whole lot of updates I can give, there have been some promising developments.
Just for the sake of convenience, I’ll give my current crush a name: let’s go with Samira. Samira and I seem to be making a strong connection. I can sense from her by the way that she looks at me and talks to me that she likes me. I hope this is in the sense that she thinks I’m attractive; although, she could just like me as a friend. She seems to be comfortable around me, which is probably what I enjoy the most about her. Read More…
November 28, 2009
Tags: Advice, Dating, Flirting, Relationships Posted in: Find a Life Partner 
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What Not to Change
I’ve mentioned that it is important not to change your personality; although, it is okay to make smaller or more targeted changes to yourself. People, like me, who find it difficult to get into relationships will often ask for advice from friends. Unfortunately, a lot of people tend to give poor advice when it comes to dating or flirting.
For example, people (especially young people) will often suggest that their friend join them at a bar or club. This is all well and good, but if you’re someone like me (I don’t drink and rarely dance), going to a bar or club may not be the best thing to do. Thinking about it logically, if you are the type of person who normally avoids these places, what are the chances you will find someone you can identify closely with there? Sure it’s possible, but not likely. Read More…
November 9, 2009
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Method #4: Physical Contact
I had a pretty lucid dream last night that my crush came up to me randomly, sat on my lap and started talking to me affectionately (You can tell I’m pretty obsessive about all this because I’m starting to dream about her). Naturally, I would love for this to happen in real life, but what I learned from this is that what I am really looking for is the physical contact. Nothing is more exciting to me than to be in contact with an attractive woman. Even if it’s as simple as an arm around the shoulder. Read More…
November 6, 2009
Tags: Emotion, Flirting, Physical Contact, Shyness Posted in: Methods No Comments
A Vicious Cycle
I am starting to feel a bit weary of my relationship prospects as of late. I still see my original crush, but not with any regularity and I’m starting to think that she’s not as interested as I thought (shouldn’t surprise me). I don’t want to tell myself that the other crush is interested, because I’ve only been wrong when I’ve thought that in the past, but I am really starting to think she is. However, I don’t see her very frequently and I’m still too timid to invite her to do anything with me. Read More…
November 5, 2009
Tags: Rejection, Relationships, Risk Taking Posted in: Find a Life Partner 2 Comments
Method #3: Change Without Changing Yourself
My next piece of advice has to do with the fine line between making yourself open and attractive to people, without changing your personality or natural habits. As I have stated, if you change yourself you not only jeopardize any relationship you form, but you also make things more difficult for yourself unnecessarily. However, this does not mean you cannot change certain things to create opportunities for yourself. Read More…
November 1, 2009
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Just My Luck?
So remember in my previous post when I was talking about how unlucky I am when it comes to relationships? Well, there was something I forgot to mention. Not only do I seem to lack any of the luck I usually have in my normal life when I am trying to court a girl, luck also seems to taunt me with the illusion of luck. Read More…
October 31, 2009
Tags: Dating, Nice Guy, Rejection, Relationships Posted in: Find a Life Partner One Comment
Missed Opportunities
It seems that, whenever I resolve to “make my move” is precisely when the opportunity fails to present itself. I consider myself to be a very lucky person. Because of this, it almost seems as if I have given up any luck I might have in relationships in order to be lucky in every other area of my life. Romance is the one part of my life where I cannot be sure that everything will simply “work itself out.” This is especially frustrating when, on the day I plan to ask my crush to have dinner with me, she is running late and doesn’t have a chance to talk. Read More…
October 30, 2009
Tags: Dating, Luck, Rejection, Relationships, Success Posted in: Find a Life Partner No Comments
Just a Friend?
I’ve recently been thinking about the whole “just a friend” issue. Many nice guys complain that they are just friends and can get no further into a relationship. I’m starting to wonder what is so bad about being friends? Read More…
October 29, 2009
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Story Time: Just a Friend
As I mentioned in the previous “Story Time” post, the chapters of Romeo And… alternate between anecdotes and explanations. Since I’m only posting the anecdotes, I’ve skipped from Chapter 1 to Chapter 3. Read More…
October 28, 2009
Tags: Dating, Memoir, Rejection, Relationships, Story Posted in: Stories One Comment
History Repeating…
When you’re a nice guy for as long as I’ve been, you start to notice similarities in the girls you are attracted to. Some of these similarities are easy to spot since they are qualities which you find appealing. However, some of these qualities are persistent even though they are not necessarily what you are looking for in a partner. I sometimes wonder if these qualities have any correlation to the personality of the girls I am interested, perhaps a subconscious desire in myself, or if these qualities have something to do with my consistent failure. Read More…
October 28, 2009
Tags: Attraction, Rejection, Relationships Posted in: Find a Life Partner One Comment