http://blog.stsaint.com/goals The Personal Journeys of Street Saint Fri, 15 Apr 2011 05:48:12 +0000 en hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3 http://blog.stsaint.com/goals/2010/05/anxiety-update/ http://blog.stsaint.com/goals/2010/05/anxiety-update/#comments Wed, 26 May 2010 06:33:11 +0000 Street Saint http://blog.stsaint.com/goals/?p=1985 Hey everyone! Thought I'd let you all know about something I just realized. So I just graduated from college last week (HOORAY!) and my parents came up for the ceremony. Over dinner we got on the subject of my social anxiety. My mom mentioned that I tend to shy away from making eye contact (something she says I picked up from her). I'm considering making an amendment to my "Conquer Anxiety" goal to include eye-contact because I didn't realize I was so bad at it and I think it's important. In any case, something else that came up was the question of whether I am "shy" or not. My step-father had mentioned offhandedly that I was still shy, but have come a long way, to which my dad responded: "Eric's not shy." He then referenced the many times that I would volunteer to speak in front of audiences, perform on stage, or sing in public. Read More...]]> http://blog.stsaint.com/goals/2010/05/anxiety-update/feed/ 0 http://blog.stsaint.com/goals/2010/05/the-final-assessment/ http://blog.stsaint.com/goals/2010/05/the-final-assessment/#comments Wed, 05 May 2010 18:30:12 +0000 Street Saint http://blog.stsaint.com/goals/?p=1921 I apologize for not delving deeper into what's been going on with me and my quest for an anxiety-free (or moderately anxiety-free) life. I admit that some of my posts have been vague, and my methods unclear. The main reason for this is that my methods have indeed been unclear (even to me!) The process of recovery from an anxiety condition is a largely individual process. You can have allies, companions, and aids, but no one can really share your experience. No one can point you to exactly what you need to do to get better. It really depends on your own personal needs. That's why there are so many different methods psychologists, psychiatrists, and self-help gurus promote: each one works for certain people and perhaps not for others. 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I have also noticed that I am more comfortable greeting people (though this is still a struggle), so I figure I can continue to focus on goal #2. Read More...]]> http://blog.stsaint.com/goals/2010/03/spring-break-reflection/feed/ 2 http://blog.stsaint.com/goals/2010/03/anxiety-goals/ http://blog.stsaint.com/goals/2010/03/anxiety-goals/#comments Fri, 05 Mar 2010 22:30:56 +0000 Street Saint http://blog.stsaint.com/goals/?p=1658 The Benefits of Introspection, it is helpful to identify all of the aspects of yourself you want to change and then work on them one at a time. Since social anxiety is a huge undertaking in and of itself, it makes sense to break it down further. The following are the factors that I've decided to work on. 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