Goal Revision: Find a Life Partner
I’ve done a lot of thinking (and I mean a LOT) about this “Find a Life Partner” goal of mine and I’ve come to the conclusion that it needs to be reworked.
Yes, I want to enter a relationship, but I don’t want it to be forced. I haven’t exactly been trying to force anything at this point, but something about striving to find a “life partner” seems a bit insincere. I don’t want my companion (provided I actually succeed) to feel as though I am only getting with her because of my goal. If that were the case, I could probably just go to some bar or club somewhere and ask out every girl I see until one says yes.
I don’t want to resort to that. I am a Nice Guy after all.
And after considering my goal further, I realize that the main reason I set it is so I had an excuse to talk about my troubled love life. This doesn’t actually solve anything. If anything, it makes me more bitter.
Instead, I have decided to tackle what I believe to be the root of my problem: my anxiety.
I’ve mentioned a number of times that I have a lot of trouble talking to people, even when they are just friends. I now attribute this, my lack of relationship success, my emotional paralysis, and a number of other issues I have on my overwhelming anxiety.
My new goal is now to conquer this social phobia of mine and really make a positive change in my life. After all, if I don’t feel comfortable talking to friends, how will I ever be comfortable with a girlfriend.
This being the case, you can say that I am no longer looking for just one life partner. Instead, my goal might be rephrased to “Find Many Life Partners.” By reaching out to friends and improving my comfort in social situations, I believe the rest will come to me.
In that case, I’ve got about 80 days left to make some significant improvement in my life. Here goes nothing!
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- New Goal: The Cure for Boredom
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- What is Social Anxiety?
- Back to the Dating Game
February 17, 2010
Author: Street Saint
Tags: Anxiety, Dating, Goals, Relationships, Revision Posted in: Conquer Anxiety
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