Method #4: Physical Contact
I had a pretty lucid dream last night that my crush came up to me randomly, sat on my lap and started talking to me affectionately (You can tell I’m pretty obsessive about all this because I’m starting to dream about her). Naturally, I would love for this to happen in real life, but what I learned from this is that what I am really looking for is the physical contact. Nothing is more exciting to me than to be in contact with an attractive woman. Even if it’s as simple as an arm around the shoulder.
Now that I realize this, the next step is very simple. Like I always say, if there is something you want, you have to go out and get it. If I want physical contact, I have to make physical contact. This brings me to my fourth method. Taking what I mentioned in Method #3, it is important to remain true to yourself. However, each of these methods is intended to make a change to my behavior in a way that will make me more accessible, without making me into something I am not.
This makes this method quite tricky, since I am not a very physical person. Although, I do want to become a more physical person because I do get so much joy out of physical contact. I think it is best to start out small: give hugs when greeting/leaving people, tapping/patting people on the back or shoulder at times, and generally be more comfortable with touching.
Some of these things I already do, but in order to make a change, I have to be more focused on these areas and make conscious decisions about when and how I make contact.
Just discussing this is making me uncomfortable. I’ve got a long way to go, I fear.
Related posts:
- Method #1: Approachability
- Method #3: Change Without Changing Yourself
- Back to the Dating Game
- Method #6: You Don’t Have to Call
- Anxiety Goals
November 6, 2009
Author: Street Saint
Tags: Emotion, Flirting, Physical Contact, Shyness Posted in: Methods
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